You are an exquisite musical instrument.
And only YOU can teach your partner how to play you.
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YOU ARE NOT A PENIS OR A VAGINA.
YOU ARE NOT A PENIS OR A VAGINA.
YOU ARE NOT A PENIS OR A VAGINA.
You're more complex.
And, yes, this equally applies to men.
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GOOD ENOUGH IS perfect.
YOU ARE NOT A PENIS OR A VAGINA.
YOU ARE NOT A PENIS OR A VAGINA.
As long as you're happy.
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SEX IS NOT SNOOKER.
YOU ARE NOT A PENIS OR A VAGINA.
Erections don't always mean sexual excitement.
It's not just about getting it in!
There's more to sex than just intercourse.
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Erections don't always mean sexual excitement.
IF YOU can LAST FOR ONE MINUTE, YOU CAN LAST FOR 60 MINUTES.
Erections don't always mean sexual excitement.
Same for orgasms.
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'BAD' CAN BE GOOD,
IF YOU can LAST FOR ONE MINUTE, YOU CAN LAST FOR 60 MINUTES.
IF YOU can LAST FOR ONE MINUTE, YOU CAN LAST FOR 60 MINUTES.
... in sex; and reverse.
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IF YOU can LAST FOR ONE MINUTE, YOU CAN LAST FOR 60 MINUTES.
IF YOU can LAST FOR ONE MINUTE, YOU CAN LAST FOR 60 MINUTES.
IF YOU can LAST FOR ONE MINUTE, YOU CAN LAST FOR 60 MINUTES.
To: all men with 'Premature Ejaculation'.
(Please last responsibly!)
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Don't change.
Just upgrade.
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Every one of us is a sexual minority.
Every one of us is a sexual minority.
Every one of us is a sexual minority.
Every one of us has had a unique journey.
Every one of us has a unique story.
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Heterosexuality is complex.
Every one of us is a sexual minority.
Every one of us is a sexual minority.
It may be as much a commitment or a habit as it may be biologically-driven.
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EVERYONE ELSE ISn't doing it all the time.
EVERYONE ELSE ISn't doing it all the time.
EVERYONE ELSE ISn't doing it all the time.
People have lives.
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Erections are not just for men.
EVERYONE ELSE ISn't doing it all the time.
EVERYONE ELSE ISn't doing it all the time.
Women have them too, inside.
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A relationship is a full-time job.
EVERYONE ELSE ISn't doing it all the time.
A relationship is a full-time job.
And, therefore, a proper relationship is a proper full-time job. It takes time.
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3 GOLDEN RULES OF SEXUAL COMMUNICATION
- If you’re up for it, signal (don't try to mind-read your partner. But use common sense).
- If you’re not up for it, signal 'no' (and this isn't and shouldn't be seen as rejection).
- Once started, you can finish it at any point (again, use common sense. And taste).
T's & C's apply.
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The caring man syndrome
The caring woman syndrome
The caring woman syndrome
A condition where a man has erectile and ejaculation difficulties during sex because he’s too focused on pleasing his partner.
Take care of yourself. Be equally selfish AND caring.
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The caring woman syndrome
The caring woman syndrome
The caring woman syndrome
A condition where a woman doesn’t enjoy sex and doesn't (or rarely) reach orgasm during sex because she’s too focused on pleasing her partner.
Take care of yourself. Be equally selfish AND caring.
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LOSE YOUR ERECTION.
Make it happen yourself, instead of it happening to you.
Then gain the erection back.
Then gain control.
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no one 'gives' you an orgasm.
PLEASE STOP SAYING 'we make LOVE'
PLEASE STOP SAYING 'we make LOVE'
You 'reach' an orgasm.
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PLEASE STOP SAYING 'we make LOVE'
PLEASE STOP SAYING 'we make LOVE'
PLEASE STOP SAYING 'we make LOVE'
... when you don't know where the clitoris is.
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'abnormal'?
Or different?
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getting ready to fight? Or to make love?
There are 365 reasons why people have sex.
getting ready to fight? Or to make love?
Upcycle that temper!
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'ALL WOMEN LooooOVE MULTIPLE ORGASMS'.
There are 365 reasons why people have sex.
getting ready to fight? Or to make love?
Except many.
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There are 365 reasons why people have sex.
There are 365 reasons why people have sex.
There are 365 reasons why people have sex.
And only one of them is 'sexual desire'.
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We are not similar.
Good Sex is not instinctual.
There are 365 reasons why people have sex.
But equal.
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Good Sex is not instinctual.
Good Sex is not instinctual.
Good Sex is not instinctual.
It is art.
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'No pain, no gain.'
Good Sex is not instinctual.
Good Sex is not instinctual.
Except during sex.
(Consensual and responsible kink excluded)
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Who does whom?
The one with the penis isn't always the 'doer'.
It's in the eye of the beholder.
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'Desire + Obstacle = Excitement'
Spontaneity in sex is overrated.
Spontaneity in sex is overrated.
Jack Morin (The Erotic Mind, 1996)
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Spontaneity in sex is overrated.
Spontaneity in sex is overrated.
Spontaneity in sex is overrated.
When was the last time you did something entirely spontaneously?
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sex is messy.
Spontaneity in sex is overrated.
YOUR BIGGEST SEXUAL APPLIANCE IS ...
In many ways. Learn how to enjoy it.
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YOUR BIGGEST SEXUAL APPLIANCE IS ...
YOUR BIGGEST SEXUAL APPLIANCE IS ...
YOUR BIGGEST SEXUAL APPLIANCE IS ...
... your sexual confidence; not that!
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let it go ... to 'come'!
YOUR BIGGEST SEXUAL APPLIANCE IS ...
It's less about what happened
Perfectionism is an enemy of sexual pleasure.
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It's less about what happened
YOUR BIGGEST SEXUAL APPLIANCE IS ...
It's less about what happened
and more about how it makes you feel now.
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Sexual pain isn't always your enemy.
Sexual pain isn't always your enemy.
Sexual pain isn't always your enemy.
Maybe she's trying to be a good friend, telling you:
"something bad is happening. Be careful!".
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Lock yourself in an exclusive space with your partner,
... where everything around turns you on, and nothing exists outside.
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Anything that happens in your life can be hanging from your penis.
Anything that happens in your life can be hanging from your penis.
Anything that happens in your life can be hanging from your penis.
In understanding erectile problems, the context (financial, relational, housing, etc.) matters.
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An orgasm a day may keep the partner away.
Anything that happens in your life can be hanging from your penis.
Anything that happens in your life can be hanging from your penis.
Fly solo responsibly.
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'sex drive' is less important than 'sexual motivation'.
Anything that happens in your life can be hanging from your penis.
'sex drive' is less important than 'sexual motivation'.
Wanting to desire sex is as, if not more, important as desiring sex.
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What would your vagina say if they (she?) had a voice?
What would your vagina say if they (she?) had a voice?
'sex drive' is less important than 'sexual motivation'.
Listen to your body.
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My best advice for the wedding night?
What would your vagina say if they (she?) had a voice?
My best advice for the wedding night?
Go to bed and don't have sex.
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try a low-porn low-masturbation diet.
What would your vagina say if they (she?) had a voice?
My best advice for the wedding night?
Have some more sex.
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tell me about your best and most memorable sexual experience.
tell me about your best and most memorable sexual experience.
tell me about your best and most memorable sexual experience.
Was it more to do with the setting and context, or the intensity of your orgasm?
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Focusing on 'not going soft' doesn't maintain your erection.
tell me about your best and most memorable sexual experience.
tell me about your best and most memorable sexual experience.
Unless you are turned on by thinking about flaccid penises.
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Sex doesn't end with orgasm.
Question: Do 'men think about sex every 7 seconds'?
Question: Do 'men think about sex every 7 seconds'?
Hang in there for a while.
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Question: Do 'men think about sex every 7 seconds'?
Question: Do 'men think about sex every 7 seconds'?
Question: Do 'men think about sex every 7 seconds'?
Answer: Not even during sex!
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Desire is usually triggered.
Question: Do 'men think about sex every 7 seconds'?
Partnered-sex is like co-driving a car with two steering wheels and two accelerator & brake pedals.
The important question is:
What turns YOU on?
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Partnered-sex is like co-driving a car with two steering wheels and two accelerator & brake pedals.
Partnered-sex is like co-driving a car with two steering wheels and two accelerator & brake pedals.
Partnered-sex is like co-driving a car with two steering wheels and two accelerator & brake pedals.
Co-ordination, communication and practice are necessary. And you may have a few accidents in the beginning.
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The first few times you have sex with someone new, many things can go wrong.
Partnered-sex is like co-driving a car with two steering wheels and two accelerator & brake pedals.
The first few times you have sex with someone new, many things can go wrong.
It's normal. You're excited/anxious; they're too. It's new.
Take your time. Communicate.
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And there's much more!
