You are an exquisite musical instrument.
And only YOU can teach your partner how to play you.
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YOU ARE NOT A PENIS OR A VAGINA.
YOU ARE NOT A PENIS OR A VAGINA.
You're more complex.
And, yes, this equally applies to men.
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GOOD ENOUGH IS perfect.
YOU ARE NOT A PENIS OR A VAGINA.
As long as you're happy.
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SEX IS NOT SNOOKER.
Erections don't always mean sexual excitement.
It's not just about getting it in!
There's more to sex than just intercourse.
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Erections don't always mean sexual excitement.
Erections don't always mean sexual excitement.
Same for orgasms.
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'BAD' CAN BE GOOD,
... in sex; and reverse.
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IF YOU can LAST FOR ONE MINUTE, YOU CAN LAST FOR 100 MINUTES.
To: all men with 'Premature Ejaculation'.
(Please last responsibly!)
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There are many 'P's in sex; some are great, some not so much.
There are many 'P's in sex; some are great, some not so much.
There are many 'P's in sex; some are great, some not so much.
Pleasure & Passion & Playfulness 👍
Performance and Perfection 👎
Penis & Penetration: depends.
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Don't change.
Just upgrade.
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Every one of us is a sexual minority.
Every one of us has had a unique journey.
Every one of us has a unique story.
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Heterosexuality is complex.
It may be as much a commitment or a habit as it may be biologically driven.
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EVERYONE ELSE ISn't doing it all the time.
EVERYONE ELSE ISn't doing it all the time.
EVERYONE ELSE ISn't doing it all the time.
People have lives!
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Erections are not just for men.
EVERYONE ELSE ISn't doing it all the time.
EVERYONE ELSE ISn't doing it all the time.
Women have them too. Inside.
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A relationship is a full-time job.
EVERYONE ELSE ISn't doing it all the time.
A relationship is a full-time job.
And, therefore, a proper relationship is a proper full-time job. It takes time.
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3 GOLDEN RULES OF SEXUAL COMMUNICATION
- If you’re up for it, signal (don't try to mind-read your partner. But use common sense).
- If you’re not up for it, signal 'no' (and this isn't and shouldn't be seen as rejection).
- Once started, you can finish it at any point (again, use common sense. And taste).
T's & C's apply.
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The pleasing-man syndrome
The pleasing-woman syndrome
The pleasing-woman syndrome
A condition where a man has erectile and ejaculation difficulties during sex because he’s too focused on pleasing his partner.
Take care of yourself. Be equally selfish AND caring.
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The pleasing-woman syndrome
The pleasing-woman syndrome
The pleasing-woman syndrome
A condition where a woman doesn’t enjoy sex and doesn't (or rarely) reach orgasm during sex because she’s too focused on pleasing her partner.
Take care of yourself. Be equally selfish AND caring.
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LOSE YOUR ERECTION.
Make it happen yourself, instead of it happening to you.
Then gain the erection back.
Then gain control.
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no one 'gives' you an orgasm.
PLEASE STOP SAYING 'we make LOVE'
PLEASE STOP SAYING 'we make LOVE'
You 'reach' an orgasm.
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PLEASE STOP SAYING 'we make LOVE'
PLEASE STOP SAYING 'we make LOVE'
PLEASE STOP SAYING 'we make LOVE'
... when you don't know where the clitoris is.
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'abnormal'?
Or different?
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getting ready to fight? Or to make love?
Upcycle that temper!
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'ALL WOMEN LooooOVE MULTIPLE ORGASMS'.
Except many.
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There are 365 reasons why people have sex.
There are 365 reasons why people have sex.
And only one of them is 'sexual desire'.
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We are not similar.
Good Sex is not instinctual.
There are 365 reasons why people have sex.
But equal.
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Good Sex is not instinctual.
Good Sex is not instinctual.
Good Sex is not instinctual.
It is art.
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'No pain, no gain.'
Good Sex is not instinctual.
Good Sex is not instinctual.
Except during sex.
(Consensual and responsible kink excluded)
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Who does whom?
The one with the penis isn't always the 'doer'.
It's in the eye of the beholder.
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'Desire + Obstacle = Excitement'
Spontaneity in sex is overrated.
Spontaneity in sex is overrated.
Jack Morin (The Erotic Mind, 1996)
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Spontaneity in sex is overrated.
Spontaneity in sex is overrated.
Spontaneity in sex is overrated.
When was the last time you did something entirely spontaneously?
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sex is messy.
Spontaneity in sex is overrated.
In many ways. Learn how to enjoy it.
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YOUR BIGGEST SEXUAL APPLIANCE IS ...
YOUR BIGGEST SEXUAL APPLIANCE IS ...
... your sexual confidence; not that!
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let it go ... to 'come'!
YOUR BIGGEST SEXUAL APPLIANCE IS ...
It's less about what happened
Perfectionism is an enemy of sexual pleasure.
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It's less about what happened
YOUR BIGGEST SEXUAL APPLIANCE IS ...
It's less about what happened
and more about how it makes you feel now.
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Sexual pain isn't always your enemy.
Maybe she's trying to be a good friend, telling you:
"something bad is happening. Be careful!".
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making love is kind of like baking cakes.
you're not ALWAYS up for it; some people are more/less interested in it than their partners; and that's very normal!
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Lock yourself in an exclusive space with your partner,
... where everything around turns you on, and nothing exists outside.
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Anything that happens in your life can be hanging from your penis.
In understanding erectile problems, the context (financial, relational, housing, etc.) matters.
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An orgasm a day may keep the partner away.
Fly solo responsibly.
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'sex drive' is less important than 'sexual motivation'.
Wanting to desire sex is as, if not more, important as desiring sex.
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What would your vagina say if they (she?) had a voice?
Listen to your body.
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My best advice for the wedding night?
My best advice for the wedding night?
Go to bed and don't have sex.
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try a low-porn low-masturbation diet.
My best advice for the wedding night?
Have some more sex.
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tell me about your best and most memorable sexual experience.
Was it more to do with the intensity of your orgasm? or the setting and context?
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Focusing on 'not going soft' doesn't maintain your erection.
Unless you're turned on by thinking about flaccid penises.
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Sex doesn't end with orgasm.
Question: Do 'men think about sex every 7 seconds'?
Question: Do 'men think about sex every 7 seconds'?
Hang in there for a while.
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Question: Do 'men think about sex every 7 seconds'?
Question: Do 'men think about sex every 7 seconds'?
Question: Do 'men think about sex every 7 seconds'?
Answer: Not even during sex!
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Desire is usually triggered.
Question: Do 'men think about sex every 7 seconds'?
Partnered-sex is like co-driving a car with two steering wheels and two accelerator & brake pedals.
The important question is:
What turns YOU on?
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Partnered-sex is like co-driving a car with two steering wheels and two accelerator & brake pedals.
Partnered-sex is like co-driving a car with two steering wheels and two accelerator & brake pedals.
Co-ordination, communication and practice are necessary. And you may have a few accidents in the beginning.
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The first few times you have sex with someone new, many things can go wrong.
The first few times you have sex with someone new, many things can go wrong.
It's normal. You're excited/anxious; they're too. It's new.
Take your time. Communicate.
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don't worry if you don't sexually fancy your partner,
The first few times you have sex with someone new, many things can go wrong.
... as long as you FANCY THE SEX you have with your partner.
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Do you care about your 'performance' when you eat a delicious burger at home?
Do you care about your 'performance' when you eat a delicious burger at home?
Do you care about your 'performance' when you eat a delicious burger at home?
Don't perform! Make a mess! Enjoy the 'burger'!
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follow the rabbit, not the road.
Do you care about your 'performance' when you eat a delicious burger at home?
Do you care about your 'performance' when you eat a delicious burger at home?
Focus on pleasure, chase it wherever it goes; not the performance road.
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And there's much more!
